I was thinking of the perfect term to describe this phenomenon. There were just so many names invented. Some people refer to it as 'mirror souls' or 'twin souls.' Many also call it "soulmates." Though the more widely recognized term is ''twin flame''. This term, however, has become cliché and the narratives surrounding it have become exaggerated over time. There were even cults and community groups formed around it. These sensationalized beliefs come from our constant desire to seek external validation instead of trusting our inner knowing and finding its true meaning.
We often label these relationship dynamics with catchy terms with the intent to promote it as a romantic fairy tale narrative that appeals to a broader audience. Now, why don't we shift that intention to learning what true love means? Not the romantic kind, but the kind that helps you ''come home to yourself''. The kind that changes you in ways you can't even imagine. Ultimately, what matters is not the label we give it but how we understand the journey.
This two-person dynamic gained popularity as many people, even from earlier times, reported undergoing similar experiences, such as deep soul connections, intense emotional highs and lows, and a strong sense of destined or fated encounter. The famous Greek philosopher Plato is the source of the first well-known mention of twin flames or twin souls. He believed in the idea of two souls recognizing something divine in each other. True love, in Plato's view, transcends physical attraction and leads to spiritual growth and the pursuit of truth.
Shakespeare’s works also explore on destined love. Although there is no direct proof that he believed in the concept of "soulmates or twin flames." he seemed to imply in his works that love could be both an intense, uncontrollable force and a profound connection that defies societal expectations. His portrayal of "star-crossed lovers" and deep soul connections share similarities with twin flames. He often emphasized the role of fate and destiny in love, suggesting that some relationships might be written in the stars.
Love is when somebody else's heart sings a song that only you can hear.
We don’t need evidence to prove that it is truly a universal thing. Many are skeptical of it or may think of it plainly as an unrealistic, sentimental, fanciful concept. However, the fact that so many individuals from diverse backgrounds, across different cultures, throughout history who have encountered and shared their experiences truly speaks to the depth and life-changing nature of this journey. While not everyone may immediately understand it, the core of this experience holds a powerful and meaningful place in our collective understanding of ''love and connection.''
How do I know if I am on a twin soul journey?
Each of us has a unique path to follow in our lifetime, and all of these paths are meant to lead us toward spiritual growth. The question is not — Where or how do I find my divine counterpart or twin flame?
The question should be: How can I focus on healing, growing, and aligning with my higher self so that I can naturally attract the connections meant for my journey?
Do not get too focused or force yourself to try to find your twin soul or divine counterpart or get caught up in searching for a counterpart. Instead, focus on your own journey of self-discovery, healing and spiritual growth.
Trust that the right connections will come into your life at the right time. Concentrating on your personal evolution will naturally align you with the experiences and relationships meant for your highest good.
The twin soul journey is not solely a romantic connection; it is a profound connection rooted in shared life purpose and spiritual growth. This special connection between divine counterparts is not just because of their unique bond and the spiritual awakening required, but also because these two souls are meant to channel love energy from the Source, our Creator. Since this is a destined and divinely orchestrated connection, it means both souls are ready to evolve and are being prepared for a deep shared purpose together.
The shared purpose is for both individuals to radiate ''unconditional love energy'' to the world. To become living examples of compassion, unity, and spiritual growth. They serve as a beacon of hope and inspiration to others, showing what it means to live authentically, embrace vulnerability, and create harmonious relationships. Through their actions and energy, they encourage others to follow a path of love, inner peace, and higher consciousness.
However, achieving this requires overcoming significant tests and challenges. This journey is not some kind of ''fairy tale'' romance. Meeting your counterpart often leads to a painful process of awakening, healing, shedding of old self, surrendering, and self-love. This journey is not for the weak, it requires great strength and patience. It pushes individuals to grow and evolve in ways they might not have otherwise, ultimately preparing them to fulfill their greater purpose.
The love shared between divine counterparts is said to be the purest form of love imaginable, embodying 'unconditional acceptance' that is rarely found in other relationships.
As we explore the stages of this journey—from that magical first encounter to the anticipated final reunion—we'll look at the unique aspects, and both the highs and lows that make this connection both fulfilling and complex.
Disclaimer: The insights and perspectives shared in these posts are guided by divine inspiration, along with my research, observations, and from my own divine counterpart experience. Please be guided by your own intuition and discernment as you explore these truths.
What are Divine Counterparts or Twin souls?
Everything in the universe exists in duality—light and dark, positive and negative, creation and destruction, low frequency and high frequency, order and chaos, action and stillness. This interplay of opposites creates balance and allows the universe to grow and evolve.
The soul, too, is no exception to this universal principle. At its essence, the soul is created in duality, embodying both divine masculine and divine feminine energies. These two aspects are complementary forces, representing balance and unity within the soul's nature. The masculine symbolizes action, strength, and structure, while the feminine embodies intuition, nurturing, and creativity. The divine feminine's role is often to lead the spiritual aspect, guiding the connection through intuition, the heartspace, and emotional insight while the divine masculine leads the physical aspect, grounding and protecting the relationship in physical reality and action, providing a solid foundation for both him and his divine feminine. Together, they form a sacred and complete whole, reflecting the interconnected harmony that sustains all existence.
A twin soul or divine counterpart is considered the other half of the same soul, split into two unique expressions or physical bodies to experience the duality of existence. This means that everyone has a divine counterpart or twin soul, but reuniting with them is deeply tied to personal growth and self-love.
Healing and Attracting your Twin Soul
A twin soul connection is not mainly about romantic fulfillment but spiritual awakening. To attract or reunite with your twin soul, one must focus on inner healing, releasing past traumas, and embracing unconditional self-love. This process raises your vibration, aligning you with your twin's energy. This is why most twin souls meet during their individual spiritual awakenings.. The connection though may feel challenging, until both individuals have reached a certain level of spiritual maturity and self-awareness.
Two Halves of the Same Soul
This journey is one of the deepest and most transformative spiritual experiences one can encounter. Twin souls originate from a single soul or energy source that, at the moment of creation, split into two distinct energies. These two halves of one original soul are destined to find each other across lifetimes, drawn together by a deep, undeniable connection.
The idea of being "one soul split into two bodies" does not mean incompleteness but reflects the deep bond and energetic resonance between the two. While each twin soul is an individual soul in its own right, they act as mirrors for one another. This mirroring reveals their truest selves—both their light and their shadows. It brings to the surface their deepest desires, insecurities, and traits, catalyzing a journey of self-discovery and growth.
When twin souls meet, it often triggers an awakening or activation within both. This can feel like a surge of recognition, as though their connection transcends time and space. The mirroring nature of their bond challenges them to confront their flaws, heal past wounds, and cultivate self-love. In doing so, they are inspired to evolve into the best versions of themselves.
Even when physically apart, twins remain energetically connected. They can often feel each other's emotions, sense one another's thoughts, and experience synchronicities that highlight their bond. This connection goes beyond the ordinary, functioning as a reminder of their shared spiritual mission: to achieve inner harmony and contribute to raising the collective consciousness.
The twin soul journey is not merely about romance or partnership; it is a path of mutual transformation, self-mastery, and spiritual alignment. It is a divine experience that encourages both individuals to awaken to their highest potential while embracing their shared purpose.
Soulmates vs Twin Souls
A soulmate, on the other hand, is anyone whose energy resonates or aligns with yours at a particular time in your journey. Soulmates often appear to help us grow, provide comfort, support or teach valuable life lessons. They might not trigger the intense spiritual transformation that a twin soul connection does, but their presence feels natural and harmonious. Meeting a soulmate can feel like finding a "comfortable home," but it may not come with the same profound push toward personal evolution as a twin soul connection. Soulmates can actually come in many forms, not just romantic partners, but also friends, colleagues, family members, or even animals or pets—providing love and support throughout your life.
The reason people often connect with soulmates rather than their twin souls could be that, at the time, they are drawn to what feels secure, stabilizing, and supportive. The twin soul connection, by contrast, may not manifest until the soul is ready for the intense growth it requires. Essentially, soulmates are aligned with where you are on your path, while a twin soul emerges when you are prepared to step into a deeper, often more challenging, level of spiritual evolution. A twin soul connection is deeper than any other soulmate connection. You share parallel lives, face similar circumstances, and learn the same lessons.
The love you feel for your counterpart is unmatched and incomparable to any relationship you have had; they truly embody your ''other half''.
How is it different from the Karmic Relationship?
A karmic relationship is called "karmic" because it’s believed to involve unresolved issues from your past. Karma generally refers to the idea that our actions come with consequences, often in terms of cause and effect.
These types of relationships are lessons to be learned. They are often complicated, exhausting, and prone to ending, even if there is a deep affection between two individuals. These connections are often demanding and highlight more on each other's flaws. In contrast, twin souls complement each other's strengths and weaknesses, creating a more harmonious and supportive connection.
These types of relationships are also a chance to work through old issues, which may also reflect a repeating toxic pattern already present in your family line. Examples of these are never-ending cycles of arguments or feelings of being unvalued or unappreciated. It is designed to remind you to heal and help you confront and resolve lingering issues. Now it is up to you to find out and realize what those issues are. In short, these relationships were meant as a ''tough test'' for you to learn, improve, and move forward. A breakup from a Karmic relationship may also trigger a spiritual awakening and paves the way for meeting your true divine counterpart.
Meeting a Twin Soul While with a Soulmate or Karmic Partner
Sometimes, people encounter their twin soul while they are already in a soulmate or karmic relationship. This happens because the timing aligns with their ''spiritual readiness'' to begin deeper self-reflection and growth. The twin soul's arrival often acts as a catalyst, awakening unresolved emotions, triggering deep healing, or challenging limiting beliefs. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean the existing relationship was "wrong" or unimportant—it served its purpose in helping the person grow to this point.
A Choice for Growth, Not Necessarily Union
When a twin soul enters your life during another relationship, it’s an invitation to heal, grow, and realign with your highest self. But this doesn’t mean you’re required to leave your soulmate or karmic partner to pursue a union with your twin soul. The journey is ultimately about spiritual evolution, not romantic obligation. Choosing to heal and embrace the lessons your twin soul connection reveals doesn’t always lead to a physical partnership.
Free Will in Twin Soul Dynamics
Free will plays a significant role in these connections. When a twin soul appears, it’s up to each individual to decide whether to embrace the growth and healing the connection brings. Some may choose to work through their spiritual lessons independently, while others may decide to pursue a relationship with their twin soul. Neither path is “right” or “wrong”; it depends on what aligns best with the individual’s spiritual journey at the time.
The Focus Is Growth, Not Necessity
Ultimately, the purpose of meeting a twin soul isn’t to create dependency or force a specific outcome but to foster greater awareness, healing, and self-love. Whether or not twin souls end up together physically, their meeting marks a pivotal point in both souls’ evolution, opening the door to higher consciousness and inner harmony.
Each divine counterpart journey is unique and can vary significantly from one person to another; however, these are the common stages that many experience along the way:
Stage 1: The Catalyst for Meeting
Before twin souls meet, life often throws a significant change their way. This could come in many forms: a breakup or a divorce that forces a re-evaluation of personal goals, or another life-changing event that disrupts their status quo. Such moments clear the way for new beginnings.
During this period, individuals may find themselves feeling a strong urge to reassess their relationships or dating life. Old habits and ways of thinking might suddenly feel unsatisfying or no longer aligned with what they really desire. This inner struggle opens them to new experiences and helps remove old barriers making them more ready to meet someone new.
This sets the stage for the important meeting that’s meant to take place. As they go through these changes, they’re being unknowingly guided toward each other, paving the way for a deeper connection that will develop in the next stages of their journey.
Stage 2: The Signs and Premonitions
In this stage, divine intervention comes into play. One or both people might have a strong feeling that someone important is about to come into their life that will fill that missing piece of a puzzle. You might even have dreamt about someone who looks like your divine counterpart. There may be a strong yearning to find your other half, a feeling of anticipation, or seeing signs and messages everywhere that only make sense to you later on.
Signs, synchronicities, and angel numbers play a crucial role in the twin soul journey, acting as divine breadcrumbs guiding both souls toward spiritual alignment. These subtle yet powerful messages from the universe often appear in moments of doubt or confusion, offering reassurance and clarity. Repeated numbers like 11:11 or 111, significant dates, or symbolic events are key indicators that you are on a twin flame path, reminding you of the deeper purpose behind your connection and nudging you toward personal growth and union.
Stage 3: The Fated Encounter
The journey begins the moment you cross paths with each other, often in the most surprising way. They appear in your life when you least expect it—sometimes just when you have given up on love or have become content with your current life. For most twin souls, they appear during your spiritual awakening process, signaling a readiness for deeper spiritual evolution.
You may have already crossed paths before without recognizing each other, but the moment you truly meet, your energies will intertwine and that's when the mirroring and awakening begins. You will feel an instant sense of recognition and odd familiarity like you've known them all your life. The connection can cause an intense ''déjà vu'' as if you've met them many times before.
If there is a strong recognition you feel, this may also be due to the possibility of having shared past lives. You might have been husband and wife in your previous incarnation, perhaps even having children. It’s possible that in your previous incarnation, one of you died sooner, or you were separated and never came into union, preventing you from fulfilling your shared purpose together. This is why there is an immediate sense of familiarity and why you are destined to meet ''again'' in another lifetime. The reunion offers a chance to complete what was left unfinished and fulfill both of your destinies.
Meeting your person often happens by chance at the perfect divine timing, orchestrated by the universe and both your spirit guides. It's as if the universe is presenting you with an answered prayer, saying, 'Here is the love you have yearned for; are you ready to embrace it?'
You may experience a powerful, unexplainable magnetic pull towards them. The moment you set eyes on one another, it feels as though there is an ethereal glow surrounding your person, like seeing an angel. The moment will seem magical, a beautiful fated encounter. This person is ''not even your usual type'' but the attraction is so immediate and intense, it seems as though you are looking at the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen. You will suddenly realize that people were not kidding what they say about ''Love at first sight'' because it is true. You will even feel strange that you already feel deep love with a person you just met and barely knew. This person will feel like home to you.
Stage 4: The Connection
Once the initial encounter happens, there's an undeniable excitement to see each other again. As you get to know one another, you’ll discover that while you share many similarities, your differences complement each other perfectly.
Twin Souls are often described as ''Yin and Yang'' energies, where one's weakness is the other's strength, creating a balance. When you come into union, your relationship involves teaching one another, accepting flaws and differences, and growing together through your unique connection.
The similarities between twin souls are uncanny and would seem ''too coincidental''. You may share the same values, mindset, experiences, creative passions, hobbies, childhood traumas, or even related professions. Oftentimes, you may even resemble the male or female version of one another. Sometimes they may also resemble a family member in terms of physical features, personality traits, or emotional dynamics. This resemblance can create a sense of familiarity and comfort.
A key indicator that you have truly met your twin soul is found in the differences between both of you. The differences are significantly ''major'', and this is designed on purpose. These differences can vary widely, such as each of you coming from different backgrounds, nationalities, races, ethnicities, cultures, religions, or social statuses. One of you might be born into a privileged family while the other lived an ordinary life. There could also be a significant age gap difference. The reason you’ve been guided by the divine to grow up in such different paths and backgrounds is because this is where unconditional love comes into play. You both need to learn to see pass these differences, to heal from insecurities and ego, and to accept each other for who you truly are. This love will stand the test of time and withstand the judgment of those around you as this is divinely anointed and protected.
As the connection grows deeper, you get more comfortable with each other's presence. It brings a surge of joy and positive emotions. It’s a time when you discover each other and enjoy each other's company. It feels like an escape from the mundane world, like taking a breather from the everyday routine. Suddenly, life is no longer boring. The growing admiration for each other creates a feeling of ''being infatuated'' or ''being in love''. For some, this earlier stage already leads to dating and physical intimacy, while for others, it stays within the domain of friendship. During this time, you focus more on each other's best qualities rather than on any flaws.
Stage 5: The Obsession
And here comes the obsessive phase. This obsessive thinking is also a genuine sign or strong indicator that you are truly on a twin soul journey. Experiencing this phase is a natural part of the process and usually follows the initial connection. It’s important to understand that this is ''normal'', and you’re not alone or ''delusional'' in feeling this way and that there's nothing to be scared or confused about. However, the obsessive feelings and thoughts during this stage can be overwhelming and all-consuming that it is sometimes ''beyond human control''. They often manifest as an intense fixation on the other person, including both physical and maybe intimate desires.
The obsession is actually your ''soul yearning'' for a deeper connection with your divine counterpart.
This longing can dominate your thoughts and emotions that you may find yourself constantly thinking about your person, day and night, daydreaming about being together, and feeling an insatiable need to be near them.
The intense fixation on your person is not just random; it’s also an ''automatic manifestation'' of your soul’s deep longing for your person, something the Divine has placed in you, much like your goals and dreams. This obsession arises because, on a higher level, your soul already knows that somewhere in your future reality, you are already in union (spiritually), or married with your person. The strong pull you feel is a reflection of that destined union, guiding you toward the fulfillment of this sacred connection.
The obsession can feel as if the other person has cast a spell on you, or as if you were seduced or bewitched. What you might not realize is that they are actually experiencing the same exact feelings, because twin souls mirror each other from the moment they meet. This unexplainable feeling will often leave you confused, scared, or sometimes even angry at yourself for feeling that way. It can become so consuming that the desperation can reach a point where you seek signs or validation, scouring the internet for any information that might shed light. Or go as far as stalking them or their social media activities. Or may even consider tarot readings to find out if the other person shares the same feelings. You might also find yourself reminiscing your past conversations over and over again, analyzing every interaction, every word, and every gesture, hoping to decode their true feelings. The intensity of this obsession can be overwhelming, making it hard to focus on anything else and leaving you feeling emotionally drained or oftentimes frustrated.
The obsession with your person means that we need to address and heal deep emotional wounds. It forces us to confront our ''inner unresolved issues'' whether we like it or not. We cannot avoid it no matter how we want to run away from it.
At this stage, being together is ''not the main goal''. It’s not even a realistic option. Instead, our minds and egos try to avoid the pain by fantasizing about being together. An escape from the reality instead of taking action. Your ego is telling you, “Everything would be perfect if only we were together.” But instead of facing what's really in front of us, we might waste years longing for this perfect love and feeling stuck in misery, daydreaming forever.
The only choice, even though we might resist it, is to fully embrace the process. We need to confront every issue that arises. So the question now is: What is blocking this connection? Is it your differences? Is it your assumptions, fears of rejection? childhood wounds? abandonment issues? limiting beliefs and traditions passed down to you? Your insecurities? Your pride and ego? Are you still traumatized by past relationships? Do you need to change something within yourself to be fully prepared to receive this kind of love? How can you focus on your own healing to learn how to love yourself first ?
The only way is —to work through it, heal, and let it go.
Stage 6: The Test
This is where things start to get challenging. As your divine counterpart or twin soul is your mirror, you may begin to notice traits in them that you do not find pleasing—traits that actually reflect your own behavior. This period can trigger anxiety and test the strength of your connection. It's a time of discovering flaws and confronting unlikable traits in each other and yourself.
During this stage, one or both of you may misjudge or underestimate the other too quickly, overlooking the other person's deeper qualities or potential. This premature judgment can create distance and frustration, making it harder to see the true nature of your connection. Early expectations can also play a significant role in these challenges, as one or both of you may expect the other to act, respond or behave in a certain way. When these expectations aren't met, it can lead to disappointment and confusion. One of you might also begin to question the other’s intentions, becoming suspicious, doubtful, or concerned that the other person has other motives in mind. This uncertainty can create emotional distance and fuel misunderstandings, making it more difficult to trust the process and fully appreciate the deeper spiritual bond that exists.
Old wounds and unresolved emotions from past relationships may begin to resurface at this stage. Anger, frustration, and fears of rejection or fear that it might not work out may start emerging. Sometimes, it may feel ''like an intense paranoia''. These difficult feelings are actually crucial for each other's personal growth. You’ll likely encounter differences in personality, behaviors, opinions, and interests, which can highlight existing insecurities, limiting beliefs and ego clashes. Both might trigger each other’s deepest vulnerabilities, resulting in intense emotional fluctuations.
This testing stage is manifested in the runner-chaser phase, where one person might pull away while the other chases, reflecting the deep-seated insecurities and conflicts that are surfacing.
Stage 7: The Runner and The Chaser
The runner-chaser dynamic happens because one of you isn't emotionally ready to process their emotions and confront what needs to be healed. This creates ''imbalance'' because one thinks they are prepared for this love, while the other is not, leading to a ''disconnect'' that usually requires a period of separation to resolve.
We mentioned that twin souls mirror each other's unresolved wounds, insecurities, and areas needing growth. One of you might already be aware of what needs to be healed and gain the courage to confront it, while the other feels scared and uneasy and runs for the hills, trying to avoid it. The runner tends to pull away or reject the other when the bond starts to deepen or become too intimate. Oftentimes, as the runner is so attached to the physical world, they think this situation is just ''too good to be true''. One of you may find yourselves trying to move on by keeping yourselves busy at work or try to date other people. However, running doesn't make unresolved issues disappear. It will go on until the runner has no choice but to face and heal their inner wounds. The chaser often puts in more effort to maintain the connection and make themselves available for the other person. As the divine feminine is usually the first to be activated in this dynamic, she ''often'' takes on the role of the chaser. This phase can be painful and confusing for both, especially for the chaser, who may feel rejected and unworthy. However, it is a crucial part of the journey, highlighting areas needing healing and growth.
Stage 8: The Separation
On most twin flame content we see online, separation is the same as the runner-chaser phase, or that reunion follows right after the runner-chaser phase, but this is ''not accurate''.
If the runner-chaser dynamic continues, it's because one or both of the individuals ''refuse'' to heal. The divine then orchestrates ''a certain period of time where circumstances prevent them from seeing each other physically''. This gives both individuals the space needed to work on their personal growth and healing.
Separation is inevitable and crucial in every twin soul journey. It can feel like a breakup, sometimes a heart-wrenching experience filled with regret, wondering where things went wrong. Sometimes one person will feel guilty for not treating the other person the way they should have when they were seeing each other, and maybe blaming themselves for the separation.
The purpose of separation is to focus on self-healing and achieve emotional balance, allowing both to be ready to enter a commitment coming from ''a place of healing'' instead of wounds.
During this time, both you and your person are guided and protected by the divine toward the path of healing and reunion.
At this stage, you work on understanding and resolving your inner issues, breaking old patterns, and letting go of past wounds. This helps you build a stronger, healthier foundation for a future reunion. By addressing and healing these aspects, you ensure that when you and your person come together, you are both in a place of self-love and are not codependent on each other to feel whole or complete.
The separation phase is also a time when third parties might try to keep you apart longer—whether it's through the influence of friends, disapproval from family, or external pressures that seem to pull you in different directions. During this period, both individuals must realize the importance of turning inward rather than seeking validation from the outside world.
Instead of relying on external opinions or societal expectations, both of you should focus on trusting your own intuition and heartspace. The journey is less about conforming to others’ viewpoints and influences and more about aligning with your own self and inner truth.
Your spirit guides are leading you through this process by illuminating the path for you, if you openly allow yourself to recognize these guidance. By using your intuition and heartspace to guide you, both you and your person can create a deeper connection with your true selves and each other.
The separation phase may last for months or even years before reuniting.
The length of separation depends on how quickly both of you heal, as you still have free will to choose your own paths, allowing each of you to work on your personal growth and healing at your own pace.
This separation between you two may be difficult; you miss your person deeply and often reminisce about your time together, replaying every conversation and recalling the first moments you met. You find yourself daydreaming, and the obsession phase continues even until you come into union. However, waiting around and obsessing over these memories won’t help; it prevents you from focusing on your own growth and healing, which are essential for the reunion.
During the separation phase, signs, messages, and synchronicities become more intense and frequent, reassuring both individuals that they are being guided and watched over. These signs can take many forms, from hearing song lyrics that resonate deeply with your emotions, to seeing someone who resembles your person or encountering their name unexpectedly. Twin flame numbers like 1111, 222, 1212, 1010 or other repeating numbers often appear everywhere, meaning alignment or nearing union. You may also see pairs of animals, objects, or even people, symbolizing the bond of two. A quote display or a vivid dream about your person can also carry significant meaning. It's crucial to recognize and understand what these signs are trying to tell you, as they often guide you toward growth, healing, or reassurance of your connection.
Twin souls are said to have telepathic bonds. Because you mirror each other, you share the same thoughts and feelings. Some say that when your person suddenly pops into your mind, it means they are thinking of you too, and vice versa. You manifest each other so strongly that you can feel each other's yearning, and oftentimes you will experience sudden bursts of inspiration, creativity, and passion because the other person is doing the same. You may also pick up on each other's emotions—if you suddenly feel unexplained sadness, anger, or frustration, it could be that you're sensing what your person is going through at that very moment. This connection is not plain coincidence, suggesting a deep, spiritual bond that goes beyond physical distance.
Stage 9: The Healing
During the separation phase, both individuals go through significant healing where they address their individual issues, learn to love themselves, and resolve past wounds. This stage is crucial for achieving the balance needed for the relationship to thrive.
If one person is still in a karmic or soulmate relationship, the divine creates circumstances that force them to choose between staying in that relationship or pursuing their healing path. And because freewill is still at play, sadly, not all divine counterparts choose to heal; some prefer the easier, more convenient route, staying in their comfort zone rather than confronting their pain, insecurities, limiting beliefs, and fears which hinder them from becoming the perfect partner for their person.
The ultimate goal of destined divine counterparts is not to come together or be in union physically, but to come home to oneself, which essentially means coming home to their twin, as they share ''one soul''.
It's not about finding love outside of you, but within.
The divine feminine, leading the spiritual aspect of the journey, is the key to initiate the healing and self-love, which the divine masculine mirrors in his own progress. Often, the divine feminine is the first to go through the deep healing process. As she heals and elevates her energy, like a powerful ripple effect, she energetically pulls the divine masculine to follow encouraging him to face his own emotional blocks and begin his healing journey. It’s an automatic process—the more the divine feminine heals and becomes divinely attuned, the more the divine masculine is drawn to heal and evolve as well.
Self-love is a reflection of your oneness with the divine and your divine counterpart. When you love yourself, you value God's essence within you, which is made out of pure love.
By cultivating self-love and self-awareness, you honor the divine within you. This self-realization and inner harmony prepare each person for a balanced and meaningful union.
Healing involves recognizing your own worth beyond your past mistakes and traumas, and loving yourself despite them. It's about releasing the need for external validation and finding peace and contentment within. It is a continuous process that requires revisiting painful memories, acknowledging the emotions associated with them, and letting go of the negative beliefs that were instilled in you. It's about nurturing your inner self consistently, practicing self-care, and maintaining a positive mindset even when life challenges you. It involves setting healthy boundaries, honoring your needs, and making choices that align with your ''true self.''
We sometimes forget what it means to love and be loved, and it is through experiencing and acknowledging the pain and suffering we endured that we are reminded of love's true meaning.
As you heal, you become more aligned with the higher version of yourself. This, in turn, helps your person do the same, as you mirror each other's progress. The more you heal and come into your own power, the closer you get to a balanced union with your person. As the divine feminine heals on the twin soul journey and aligns more closely with the divine, she may experience a spiritual awakening that enhances her intuitive skills or psychic abilities. For some, this manifests as heightened sensitivity to energy, clairvoyance, deeper inner knowing, or even vivid spiritual insights. However, not all divine feminines awaken these abilities in the same way, as each journey is unique. The focus is always on personal growth, emotional healing, and deepening the connection with the divine.
True love is coming home to one's self.
This journey of self-healing ultimately leads to a relationship that is not based on codependency but on mutual respect, love, and understanding, making you both perfect counterparts for each other.
The key to healing is also prioritizing one's self. This doesn't mean setting aside important obligations or responsibilities, but rather balancing them with your own needs. It involves prioritizing self-care alongside fulfilling your commitments. It means pursuing your own passions, goals, and dreams, (ones that truly give you joy and fulfillment) not just those that benefit others, and recognizing when you're overextending yourself for others' sake. By dedicating more time and energy to your own development and happiness, you create a strong foundation for true healing and fulfillment, which in turn strengthens your connection to your person.
Stage 10: The Surrender
Surrender means accepting what is letting go of the need to control the outcome of this journey and trusting the process. Both individuals have accepted that they are on a spiritual journey and have faith in the divine's plan. This stage requires deep faith and patience, allowing the divine to guide them back together.
While healing takes place for both, the divine aligns everything, working behind-the-scenes for the union to happen. Again, this depends on both individual's freewill and choice of whether to choose the path of healing or not. If both have decided to heal, the reunion will happen in divine timing, requiring patience from both sides.
There is a difference between manifesting your person and being anxious about how the union will happen. Manifesting involves focusing on your desires with positive energy, visualizing and feeling a beautiful union, and trusting the process without being ''too attached'' on the outcome. You remain at peace and at present, with the belief that union will come in divine timing. On the other hand, anxiety about how the union will happen is rooted from fear and doubt, which can block the manifestation process.
It's important to maintain a mindset of faith and surrender, knowing that the divine timing will bring you together when both of you are ready. Balancing manifestation with patience and trust in the divine plan is the key.
Some spiritual coaches online say you should stop obsessing about your person and just focus on yourself. But anyone on a true twin soul journey knows it's nearly impossible to stop thinking about your person, no matter how you keep yourself busy. Instead, you need to manifest this love in a healthy way. This means that while you are thinking of your person, you are no longer escaping reality through obsessive-thinking but confronting your present reality that will propel you toward healing and union with yourself.
It's about recognizing your feelings and the connection you share, using that awareness to guide your journey. You don’t have to ignore your person or forget them; instead, embrace the practice of sending them love and ''prayers'', wishing for their healing and growth. Balancing your feelings with real-life actions that promote your own healing will pave the way for a positive and healthy reunion with your person when the time is right.
Everything you both have been through, and all the lessons you had to learn, may have been difficult and painful, but they were necessary. They are leading you to a beautiful place where you will both be in your heartspace, break down your walls, and feel safe being vulnerable with one another.
Stage 11: The Reunion
Finally, if both you and your person have done the necessary work, you come home to each other. As you become one, your individual strengths amplify and radiate a higher frequency of unconditional love., harmony and purpose. The union is not the end but the peak of the journey where both of you are whole and complete, having gone through significant growth and healing. You are now ready to embark on your shared destiny. Once both of you are healed, love flows naturally and effortlessly.
For twin souls already in committed relationships, reunion doesn’t necessarily mean leaving their current partner. Instead, it focuses on inner healing and spiritual alignment. By choosing to heal themselves, they create a sense of balance and wholeness within. This reunion often manifests as a deep, "'unspoken connection'' where twin souls feel ''spiritually united'', even if they remain physically apart. It is a journey of mutual growth, not dependency, allowing both to honor their individual paths while embracing the divine bond they share.
For those who choose to commit to their twin soul, the divine masculine often plays a crucial role in initiating the union phase. However, both must confront and overcome any remaining fears or insecurities about the relationship and their future together. The divine masculine often needs to open up emotionally and be willing to be vulnerable. This involves expressing feelings and intentions clearly and showing a willingness to commit fully to the relationship. The divine masculine often knows it’s time to move forward through an inner knowing or intuitive guidance, feeling a strong readiness or emotional pull towards the divine feminine. He may also notice synchronicities or signs, or meaningful coincidences, that suggest it's the right time. As he heals past wounds and integrates his experiences, there is a sense of clarity about moving forward. Sometimes, the divine feminine’s actions or communications can also serve as a signal that the time is right. She might express readiness or create opportunities for reconnection, which can help guide the divine masculine. The divine masculine might notice a shift in his emotions—feeling more secure, confident, and ready, which often is a strong indicator that it’s time to come forward. The divine feminine should create a safe space for him to express his feelings. By listening openly with empathy and offering support without judgment, she helps build trust and deepens their connection. Her nurturing ability plays a vital role in strengthening their bond and guiding them toward their shared path.
At the union stage, it is also common for both individuals to discover a shared passion together. This shared passion is destined for success, as it serves a higher calling. It becomes a central focus of their relationship, driving them to work together towards common goals, creating abundance for themselves and others. Whether it’s a creative project, a business, a humanitarian activity, a cause, or a mutual interest, this shared passion strengthens their bond and gives their relationship deeper meaning. Their shared passion has the power to create positive change, opening opportunities for others and leaving a lasting, meaningful impact on the world.
Even at this stage, free will remains at play. The union is not automatic; it requires continuous effort, commitment, and the conscious decision to stay aligned with their shared purpose and love. Challenges are still inevitable. External forces—whether societal or family pressures or unforeseen obstacles—will often attempt to create distance between them. However, they must both consistently choose each other, recognizing that their bond is strengthened by their willingness to face these tests together. It’s through mutual dedication and resilience that they can overcome any hurdles, allowing their love to flourish even in the face of adversity.
In the union stage of this journey, they continue to nurture and heal each other’s inner child, creating space for happiness in ways they’ve never experienced before. Together, they engage in activities that reignite their sense of wonder and fun, allowing them to explore new depths of connection. Through this, they elevate and support one another, which helps them grow both individually and as a unified couple.
Their love is shown through acceptance, forgiveness, and unwavering support, embracing each other's flaws and strengths without conditions or expectations. This love fosters patience, understanding, and compassion, allowing both to thrive as their truest, most authentic selves. Their bond is rooted in mutual respect, trust, and a deep emotional connection, creating a strong, lasting partnership. Even after the reunion, their relationship is continuously divinely guided, and together they will create a new legacy, one rooted in love and kindness, that will prosper and provide a healthy foundation for their children.
In union, it requires both individuals to take a leap of faith, which is a testament to their courage, and willingness to trust in their connection and the divine plan.
In the union phase, this unconditional love flows outward, touching everyone around them. Their bond not only fulfills their own growth but also serves as an inspiring example for others, encouraging them to embark on their journeys of healing and self-discovery. This stage is a beautiful blend of love, purpose, and mutual growth, resulting in a harmonious partnership that uplifts and inspires the world.
The journey of finding true love, whether through a twin soul or soulmate, ultimately starts within. The goal is always to find love within and not seek it outside. You attract love and not chase it. The focus should always be on cultivating self-love and positivity. By healing and nurturing yourself, you create an inviting energy that attracts love rather than chasing after it. The divine will bring the right person into your life at the perfect time.
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What I Learned From My Own Twin Soul Journey?
Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine myself writing about 'love and connection' or spirituality. Somewhere along the way, I got so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, responsibilities, and endless to-do lists that I forgot I once believed in dreams, magic and fireworks. The kind that fills your heart with so much joy it feels ready to burst. I forgot what it was like to dream of a love so pure and consuming that it leaves you completely content. But then, something reignited within me and suddenly, I remembered. These things that we normally perceive to be ''impossible'' often leave us questioning our reality, wondering if the universe is just playing tricks in our mind or revealing something we never expected. But, how can we claim to have faith if we don’t believe in the possibility of the impossible? Right? That’s not genuine faith. True faith means believing and fully trusting in what isn’t visible to the eye. Love, for instance, is unseen, but it’s so powerful that it can change YOU...yourself... and the world around you. God created that. Isn’t that beautiful?
At first, I was skeptical of the concepts of soulmates and twin flames. I was one of those people who thought of these ideas as ridiculous, cheesy, fanciful concepts. Plus I had totally already given up on love. I had already embraced the idea of aging gracefully alone, content with not having children, and just enjoy my life independently, finding happiness in little things without relying on anyone. But I didn’t know God had a different plan for me until He awakened me to a purpose.
Others could have a different experience, but here’s what it felt like for me when I met my twin soul —with no exaggeration, this is true story. The first time I met him, I didn't recognize him right away. Well, because I was not wearing my eyeglasses :-) the first few times we met and it was all a blur. All I could see was his toothy smile. I thought he was just some random nice guy and at the time I was just minding my own business. I met him at the time I was having my awakening - purging old ways, healing wounds, detaching from people and from my toxic job, and living in isolation. So, with all that blurred vision of him, I said to myself: "Huh, do I know this guy? Have I seen him somewhere?" There is something weirdly familiar about him that I can't point my finger on. And when I finally wore my eyeglasses on the 4th time we met, and was able to get a good look at his eyes and face, it was like I was struck by lightning. Then, like something straight out of a movie, fleeting glimpses of the past and future flashed before my eyes, like a hologram of flipping pages in a book. My eyes widened almost teary-eyed for a few seconds, and for a reason I couldn’t explain, it felt as though I was staring at my own reflection in a mirror. Then I heard a whisper in my ear saying, ''That's your person'', I quickly turned my head around, almost breaking my neck. ''Who on earth ....?'' I mumbled to myself. 'No. no. no. there's no way''. Then I suddenly felt so scared and confused that I wanted to run away from him that instant. Luckily he didn't notice my reaction but I was definitely awkward. Trying hard to keep a straight face while he talked to me so he would not think I'm unhinged or something.
When I got home that night, I had such intense mixed feelings. My heart was palpitating crazily that I had to sit on the floor outside my door, trying to process everything. “What in the name of universe was that? What's happening? Why do I feel so strange?’’ I couldn't explain it. I was so confused that I suddenly burst into tears, crying ugly, not really knowing why. I only met this person and I am crying for him. I thought I was still grieving from my past and I thought why would the universe play a cruel joke like this on my feelings? Knowing that I’m not someone who easily falls for a guy I barely know just baffled me. I had my first and only boyfriend when I was 27. That’s how eclectic I was.
I eventually learned that it was a twin soul normal reaction. A mind-boggling spiritual awakening. My spirit guides led me to research when I came across the word somewhere online. At first, I had doubts about how this could even be possible when the person paired with me by the universe is a person who seem to be of logic and reason and comes from a completely different background. I thought that's going to take a lot of ego-shedding right there. For both of us. And I wasn’t sure if I heard correctly that he was married. I’m not one to ask personal questions because I didn’t want to seem intrusive given his status. However, my intuition tells me that he might be holding back something, possibly to protect himself. And I completely understand that. Despite this, I continued to respond naturally to whatever he shared with me, even though I sensed there might be more to the story. I thought, ‘’If this guy is married with a kid, why would he waste his time talking to me?’’ But I was just simply grateful for the opportunity to have a new friend around to talk to, regardless if he is married or not.
It took me some time to grasp it all. How I knew that this was all real and true was when I finally gave up on resisting the signs thrown at me. Everywhere I look, hear, and feel always points to this person. The synchronicities and signs are so strong that I can no longer deny it. It's like the universe is forcing my head to look straight, directly at the truth while I keep turning my head left and right. Plus, it’s remarkable how almost every spiritual influencer in the world, with their messages resonating so much with my current reality, and the accuracy in describing both me and this person is truly amazing. It's as if the universe is using them to deliver a message to me.
We are currently in physical separation, but I believe I am already in union with myself, and I can feel he is healing too. Those very brief but memorable encounters both me and this person shared, gave me simple joys. It felt like having a rare good friend at a time of heartbreak. I felt like I existed and seen for the first time. I'm glad that when we met, I was my true self - no makeup, no facades, no mask, no trying to impress, just plain ole me, rockin' my rugged I-woke-up-like-this-look (looking like I just rolled out of bed) :-)
This journey was truly a roller-coaster ride of emotions, and I am just curious to know what it was like on his end. If God wills, and we meet again, we might just laugh or cry together about everything we’ve been through. Neither of us intentionally sabotaged this connection, but we were separated for good reasons. I had to heal first, and I was very stubborn. God changed my situation, and brought me back to the place where I have to complete my healing - my hometown, and put me through much harder tests to refine and strengthen my heart and my faith.
The test and challenges on this journey, I cannot even fathom how I was able to survive them. I had to hit rock bottom and face persecutions in order to see the peak. It has not been an easy one at all. You are not on a true twin soul journey if you have not shed tears or felt heartbroken for this connection. It was part of my awakening process and leading me towards spiritual growth.
But it wasn’t just about my twin soul journey, but also about the trials tied to my own calling. Many times, I questioned, "Why me?" And God answered: "Because of your heart, child. Despite everything life has thrown at you, even at your lowest, you have always shown love, compassion, and strength to others without hesitation or judgment. While wounded from your own battles, you still carried others when you could have saved yourself. I made you this way, and now it’s time for you to receive. I have prepared you for a higher purpose. You will not walk this journey alone; I will bless your union and future." This was the promise that guided me toward a path of purpose.
Healing changed me in many ways. My once-wounded inner child is at peace now, and I can almost feel her thanking me. Healing humbled me and allowed me to see myself for who I truly was. It restored back my faith in myself which I lost years ago. I’ve freed myself from the need for approval and validation from others. It changed how I approach life in general. I’ve learned that real growth and maturity isn’t just about fulfilling responsibilities, staying productive, or managing time well—it’s also about expanding your ''self-awareness'' and continually seeking to understand life’s deeper meanings, recognizing the true value in everything.
The inner healing also manifested outward which transformed my physical appearance. My body feels lighter, my once hunchback and unconfident posture has improved, and my eyes now a brighter brown, no longer dark, dull and lifeless. My smile is more genuine now, not forced, and I even look and feel younger now that I am 41 than I did when I was 27 years old. And I am sharing this because ''healing'' truly is the grand glow-up everyone needs. It’s about transforming from within—shedding wounds, limiting beliefs, and emotional baggage. As you heal within, your energy naturally heals your physical body as well. You reclaim your power, your inner light shines brighter, and it radiates outward. This kind of glow-up isn’t temporary; it’s a lasting, change that impacts every part of your life, from your confidence to your relationships with others, and even how you approach life’s challenges.
The most challenging part is staying ''consistent'' in your faith. The true struggle is ''within'', not even in the tests and challenges given nor the persecutions you face. You worked so hard to build up your faith, keeping your spirits high and positive, one day you're soaring with high energy, then the next, it plummets down, leaving you questioning your worth making you settle for less. There came a point when I almost gave up on believing God's promise, my limiting beliefs coming back and haunting me, saying to myself, ''Yeah well, when it happens, it happens''. That is called settling for less and not having faith that it ''will'' happen. Don't settle for good enough when God has the best just for you. There will always be doubts and fears. Always... But what's important is to not let it overpower your faith and trust. Faith must always prevail. Consistency is the key. Having healed from past wounds, I am now more determined and grounded in faith to step into the purpose God has ordained for me: to be a beacon of hope and drive meaningful change that touches lives.
Now, I don't know much about him but I feel closely tied to him energetically that he still runs 24 hours in my head tirelessly to the point that I've gotten used to it even as I try to focus on myself. Whatever life brings us, whatever he chooses, I am grateful that we have crossed each other's paths. It has changed me a lot, and I hope the same goes for him. I took him as one of my inspirations to do better every day, to focus on my own healing and to take inspired action on my goals and dreams. Each day, I include him in my prayers, asking God to protect him, help him with his own inner struggles, and enlighten him just as the way He has enlightened me.
I was told by my spirit guides that I somehow sparked his healing as well. My heart is now ready to receive from the universe because I feel whole and because I learned to love myself more. Whatever path we choose to take, now that we are both healed, I hope it will center on choosing ourselves. Still, I will keep an open heart and mind. We may live different lives, but I feel he is a very down-to-earth person, and I am sure he has made a positive impact on others as well. I am proud of him, even though I barely know him.
My spirit guides have urged me to keep faith, surrender, and fully trust in God's divine plan. That I must never give up and continue focusing on myself. However the future unfolds for both of us now, I trust it will be according to God’s will. However it ends, we are already in union "in spirit," and if someday our paths cross again in the physical world, I will write a new chapter in that story.
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